Query: What is Spirituality: How to maintain a balance between day to day
personal life and spiritual life.|
Before I am able to answer your questions you need to take a vital
decision in life ... the goal of your life. While traveling the spiritual path it is possible that you may
not be able to take care of your parents. The goal of your life is in your own hands alone. You can receive
guidance from many yet; you cannot do away with the final choices you alone can
Establishing a goal life can vary ...
one can desire becoming Ramakrishna Paramhansa ... a god realized soul ...
one who gained enlightenment within this life. Another was Swami Vivekananda who failed to Realize God within
his lifetime. He never wanted to Realize God ... he only wanted a darshan of the God. He truly desired from
his heart the welfare of the common man ... one can within this life either become a Swami Vivekananda or
Mother Teresa ... both wanted to devote their entire life for the cause of society.
Now ... the cause of society is not the least concern of the true seeker
of Spirituality ... a true seeker of Spirituality initially is after Self Realization. Once that is achieved
and having attained the status of a man God like Buddha, Mahavira, Jesus Christ and
Prophet Mohammed ... there is no end to providing succor to the ailing society. Unless one has Realized God
... how can we preach ... and what shall he preach! All would become a farce unless we practice ourselves
what we intend to teach.
The goals and the paths are absolutely clear. But we need to decide
before we embark on the mission of our life. Many people desire immortality ... type the word immortality in
Google search engine and you shall know how many people really want to gain immortality. If you ask these
people that apart from immortality what else they desire ... they would be prepared to give you a list of the
most wanton desires these people desire to fulfill in this life before achieving immortality.
The poor souls are never able to realize the real truth that immortality
means Liberation from the cycle of birth and death forever ... and a human body has got nothing to do with
it. It is only our atman the soul within, which has embarked on its mission of gaining absolute purity. The
moment the soul leaves the mortal fame having achieved the state of enlightenment ... is what we call as
having gained immortality.
Ask these people if they are willing to surrender before death ... for if
they truly desire immortality abandoning the garb of a human being is a must. You would get your answers.
Most aspirants of Spirituality want the best of both the worlds ... they want to gain unlimited materialistic
reaches to satisfy their inner urge for sensuous pleasures and simultaneously they also desire immortality,
Self Realization, enlightenment by whatever means ... only if it was possible.
While proceeding on the path of spirituality ... we need to practice absolute Celibacy ... practicing Celibacy
means no sex ... then how does one expect of achieving materialistic gains simultaneously. But, in the Spiritual
domain one thing is permitted by God ... the basic needs of the family are taken care of by God ... provided one
proceeds on the path of spirituality with full faith in the system of God. This happened in the case of Swami
Vivekananda ... and it shall be made possible by God for every true seeker of Spirituality.
It also happened in my case. Until, August 1993 I was the managing
director of a about $1 million concern and the moment I Realized God ... I was not permitted by God even to
go to my office ... going to an office for the sake of earning money was too small a goal for a God realized
person. I understood the abstract God desired of me ... it is almost 11 years now but I am never short of my
basic needs ... somehow, God is taking care of myself and the family without fail. I am an extremely
satisfied person yet; the members of my family crave for materialistic riches beyond the basic needs and in a
short while that shall also be achieved by the grace of God.
The moment I Realized God ... and without a job ... a source of
livelihood ... I was scared ... In present times one does not seek Bhiksha (alms) as used to happen during
the times of Buddha. My wife is just contrary to me ... if I am the North Pole ... she is the South Pole. It
is very difficult to manage ... but having come face-to-face with God ... I am in total communion with him
every moment of my life now ... fear is something which now makes me laugh! What more could I aspire for than
the direct grace of God. I have everything what a worldly man could aspire for.
I took a world trip in 1987 just to know the depth of the people in the west ... I am not like Swami Vivekananda
who went to the west in search for charity ... and came back empty-handed for none was willing to part with the
material riches in exchange for the Spiritual wealth Swami Vivekananda carried with him ... he was a living
monumental example of what India was in his times.A person so revered
by people world-wide that in his speech in 1893 ... during the Parliament of World Religions ... he shook the
foundations of what we call as Religion and
Swami Vivekananda: I shall narrate here two incidents in the life of Vivekananda he experienced
while in the west- Swami Vivekananda was so engrossed in Spirituality that he never read anything from a book
... his every discourse was extempore ... he never quoted from the books ... he was a living example of what
Bhagavad Gita and Spirituality is all about ... words of Spirituality flowed from his mouth as if he was the
originator of all source of wisdom. His grip on the matters Spiritual was unparalleled. He was always willing
to impart Spiritual wisdom for hours and days together ... without an iota of doubt ever.
It so happened that people who were jealous of him and his knowledge
... one day invited him for a lecture. As destined ... he was to speak extempore. The subject of the lecture was to
be given to Swami Vivekananda at the venue of the meeting. Swami Vivekananda reached the place at the appointed
time. As he approached the venue ... he could see that a white cloth was tied between the two trees. It seemed to
him that may be it was the background for him from where he was to lecture. As he came nearer ... he was introduced
to the white cloth ... it was supposed to be the subject of his lecture. He carefully observed the cloth ... it had
a small black spot in the center ... he could not help laughing.
The people in the gathering expected that today Swami Vivekananda is going to miserably fail in all his endeavors.
There was no subject but a white cloth with a black spot in the center. For a common man the joke was absolutely
clear ... but for Swami Vivekananda ... in a long period of time it was one of the best subjects one could have put
through to him for lecture.
Swami Vivekananda started that it is a pity that in such a big white
cloth you are able to visualize the central black spot. He emphasized on the fact that the black spot did not
constitute even one per cent of the white cloth ... yet, so much attendance was being given to it that it was
chosen as subject for him to lecture upon.
Swami Vivekananda stated that his Guru Ramakrishna Paramhansa had
taught him that whatever is available of the other person ... there is always something in every person in which he
is the best ... take that trait of character from him and forget about everything else. A thief may be 99% impure
in his thoughts and working yet there is always one per cent which makes him stand out of the rest ... why not we
inculcate that 1% in our character and go ahead.
He then came to the vital point ... he stated that you have given the subject for today as zero. Not realizing what
zero signifies ... he started from the origin of the cosmos ... the Big Bang occurs from a zero. Every sun, star in
the cosmos is in the shape of a zero ... everything which moves perfectly is round ... the shape of an atom is
round (a zero) ... all pArticles of energy can be broadly classified into spherical blasts of energy ... the planet
mother earth on which we live is round ... his lecture continued on the topic of zero ... without a break ... those
who had gathered there for the sake of fun regretted ... they were standing in the presence of one of the Spiritual
masters the west had never seen or heard before.
Having put to shame ... they acknowledged the guilt and left ... they
had learnt their lessons ... Swami Vivekananda pointed out that the subject for today is without a boundary ... he
can continue forever and ever. It was only on the request of the people gathered there that he put a break to his
speech. He never felt bad about anything ... he could make out that the materialistic tendencies in the west are
more dominating ... Spirituality is only limited to the textbooks. He advised practicing Spirituality in physical
life ... in daily life ... as a part and parcel of life.
In the second instance- Swami Vivekananda was passing through an area
where lived more of Englishmen who particularly prided on being more of a gentleman than a dhoti wearing hermit
from India, a poor country. One young couple passed by and commented that Swami Vivekananda should have dressed up
as a gentleman ... how uncultured he seems to be!
Swami Vivekananda replied it seems "in your country a tailor makes a gentleman ... in my country where I belong to
my culture, our feeling of brotherhood, our love for motherland, unity in diversity makes a gentleman". He further
elaborated about the various cultures being followed in India and yet, all live in harmony. The couple was totally
taken aback, they profusely apologized for their mistake and left. This incidence was covered in the newspapers the
next day ... there was nothing but applause everywhere.
In spite of such instances, Swami Vivekananda continued for a long
time touring the west ... his only desire being to get a portion of the materialistic wealth of the west for his
poor country and in exchange he was willing to give the Spiritual meaning to the Western society. He miserably
failed ... when a returned more than a year later he was a completely broken man. He never could believe that
people in the west had so much love for money.
In your case Sindhu, you need to decide the goal of your life ... once
that is decided ... it should no longer be a problem for you to live life of your choice. Life is never binding
upon us ... there are thousands and thousands of seekers of Spirituality you would find in Haridwar, Rishikesh and
other centers of Spiritual learning ... most of them ran away from their homes without completing their
responsibilities. We can never gain anything in the Spiritual world unless we put to rest our Karma. We need to
burn out our Karma in totality ... that is only possible if we carry out our responsibilities in this
Like King Janaka who always worked with an unattached attitude towards the daily routines as a King ... one can
always follow the examples of King Janaka. In spite of his Spiritual bent of mind he was a highly successful king
of his times. He was the father of Sita, the consort of maryada Purushottam Ram ... all what Ramayana is all
You also must complete your duties towards your parents ... but
continue doing what the sweet small inner voice from within every human being dictates ... you need to develop
yourself to hear that sweet small inner voice ... only then you would be able to follow it! Practicing Yoga ...
following the path of Neti ... the Shavasana pose ... are all essential ingredients to live a spiritual life to the
extreme. Try to follow a profession of your liking ... initially, it may not be possible ... but when you make
sincere efforts ... all is possible in the Spiritual domain as God always helps true seekers of
If you do not have a master to guide you on the Spiritual path ... do
not despair. Follow the example of Eklavya ... he became the best archer of his time ... much ahead of Prince
Arjuna ... a pupil of Guru Dronacharya ... who refused accepting Eklavya as his pupil only because he belonged to a
lower caste. Eklavya ... keen to achieve the goal of his life within this life ... made a clay replica of Guru
Dronacharya ... and practiced before it. I in my own life did not have a Guru ... I requested God to become my Guru
... and he willingly accepted ... from that day onwards I never looked back ... right from the stage of 13 years of
age I took exactly 25 years before I could Realize God within this life.
Choose for your own self ... how you want to go about in your
life ... every individual human being has different sets of living conditions, working conditions and what not ...
we are only supposed to synchronize all these and simultaneously achieve the goal of life.
Do you realize the gravity of the statement you have made, "if you do not
let thoughts come into your head" ... this means ... the state of Nirvikalpa Samadhi ... A stage... when one
has already taken over absolute control over the senses and the mind and put at rest all thoughts flowing
into the mind from the reservoir of Mind Plus and Mind Minus. The moment I reached the state of Nirvikalpa
Samadhi it was only a period of about three years before I Realized God.
Gaining control over the senses and the mind is the most difficult task a
human being encounters while proceeding on the path of spirituality ... the sensuous pleasures ... the
materialistic brightness world-wide ... the wanton desires ... liking for what not are all under the control
of our senses ... really difficult to get out ... but not impossible! Think over ... first choose your goal
... proceed ahead with right earnestness ... you shall be successful one-day.
You also need to practice patience, which is one of the most important
ingredients on the path of spirituality. Even Swami Vivekananda lacked in practicing absolute patience ... so
was the case with Acharya Rajneesh aka Osho. We need to practice patience to its extreme ... In present times
it was only Gandhiji who was able to practice patience even in the most adverse circumstances while facing
the British rule.
I need time for my own chores ... from now onwards hopefully I shall be
able to reply early. Do not stop sending your queries ... unless the queries within dissolve ... you shall
not be able to follow the Spiritual path in right earnestness.
God be with you.
Always there to clarify your queries (send your query),
Vijay Kumar "Atma Jnani" ... The Man who Realized God in 1993!
Full text of query: I do not really have any queries that I need to ask, but you can give me
some guidance, which is all that I am looking for. To describe my situation, I am at the moment in between
two worlds, the physical, or material or real or whatever you call it and the Spiritual. As a result I spend
almost every waking hour contemplating or readiing about or pursuing spiriuality and have absolutely no
interest in any of the mundane activities of life like work or anything. I go to the office and all that I do
is look through Websites on Spirituality, and related subjects. I am stuck in a place that I am finding very
hard to get out of. I think I might be imbalanced to a certain level and I need to know if everyone goes
through this in their quest for the devine or am I doing something wrong? I am lucky that by gods grace I
have not lost my job yet....and I cant afford to as I have my parents to take care of. I am 24 and when
everyone is out there with the objective of making money I feel like a freak.
The rest of my time I practice Yoga and I do a very simple form of
Meditation which is Sudarshan Kriya, which I know is not harmful. What do I do to strike a balance between
both Spiritual and personal life? Living in a city like Bangalore I do not even have a guru that I can go to
ir rather dont know of any. Oh and one more question I have is, if you do not let thoughts come into your
head, does it help sharpen your intuition? I mean when you are NOT meditating......... YOu can help me by
atleast telling me of anyone I can go to to talk to or for guidance.
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